Episode 58 - Helen Oakwater

March 16, 2019

This week we speak to Helen Oakwater, adoptive parent, speaker and author, about her new book 'Want to Adopt? How to prepare yourself to parent a child from the care system'. We have a broad discussion based on the contents of the book including the nature of the adoption system, is adoption preparation fit for purpose?, resilience and the impact on adopters. There was a lot to covers so we rattled through it. There were a couple of grown up words, but frankly if you've made it this far you'll be fine!

You can buy the book on Amazon here.

Scott and Al employ some banter, be warned do not eat food during the first 5 minutes due to the nature of the anecdote shared. We catch up all things weddings at the end and Al loses control of his faculties. Be clear, Al has a clear understanding of the difference between a shovel and a spade and isn't being an arse, well? and there is no such thing as the Kalmari window, sorry Mr Johari.

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Adopter Stories - #11 Natalie

March 9, 2019

In this Episode Natalie share her experience of adopting a 19month old girl with her husband. After what seemed like a period of normality some of her daughter's early live experiences manifest in her behaviour and ultimately led to them changing their parenting. 

If you'd like to share your story then please get in touch through the Adoption & Fostering Podcast's facebook page here, or our twitter feed here.

Episode 57 - Scott & Al talk, Behaviour policies, Vicarious Trauma & Therapy for Parents

March 2, 2019

We catch up on some correspondence and ponder the challenges of school's behaviour policies vs relational based models of behaviour management. We also discuss some of the challenges of parenting and the impact of vicarious trauma, the consider the need for therapeutic support and intervention for adoptive parents. 

Scott's new venture is discussed and we both go awry when considering our geographical grasp of the route of his upcoming walk. 

As always thanks for listening and if you're feeling benevolent or bored please head over to iTunes and leave a little review here 

Adopter Stories - #10 Rosie

February 16, 2019

In this episode of Adopters Stories Rosie tells her story of supporting her mother and her husband as they adopted three children. Its a hard story to hear and challenges the normal adoption narrative. The experience has had a pivotal impact on her career choices and subsequent life. 

If you'd like to share your story then please get in touch through the Adoption & Fostering Podcast's facebook page here, or our twitter feed here.

 

 

Episode 56 - Prof Beth Neil (Adopted Parents Study)

February 9, 2019

In this episode Al speaks to Prof Beth Neil about upcoming research that the University of East Anglia are undertaking into the experiences of adoptees becoming parents and adopters becoming grandparents. The study aims to

- to provide a new understanding of the lived experiences and needs of adopted people who are now parents, and of adoptive parents who are now grandparents.

- to use these insights to inform the support of adopted children & young people, adopted adults, and the children of adopted adults.

- to inform future developments in adoption policy and practice.

If you would be interested in taking part or would like to ask more questions then the link to the website is here.

Needless to say Beth is more than happy to discuss a little bit about contact as well. 

As always there's banter and flippery from da boyz and Al chats about his experience on a three day NVR (Non Violent Resistance) Training and more thoughts on the intervention. 

 

 

 

Adopter Stories - #9 Alex

February 2, 2019

In this episode Alex shares her journey from approval as a specialist foster carer to then going on to adopt the little boy she cared for. Like many journeys Alex shares some of the unexpected, but welcome, turns and some of the challenges and joys that she's experienced.  

If you'd like to share your story then please get in touch through the Adoption & Fostering Podcast's facebook page here, or our twitter feed here.

Episode 55 - Julie Samuels, Digital Adoption Challenges

January 26, 2019

Firstly we attempt a new intro, you can be the judge of its success. Then in this episode Al speaks to Julie Samuels adopter, researcher and author of Adoption in the Digital Age: Opportunities and Challenges for the 21st Century. We consider the impact on families of the new connectivity, digital image search, contact, life story and more. 

Scott and Al pick the issues up and reflect on some of the challenges across social media for all people touched by adoption as well as some of the recent fracas on twitter. 

There was a lot to cover this week including, the Draft Domestic Abuse Bill, Twitter feedback, RAA concerns, Scotts plans for a walk as well as getting somewhat distracted by Scott's wedding and concerns over how tall Al actually is.

As always, thanks for listening, tell your friends, steal your spouses phone and subscribe them take the kids to the phone shops and subscribe the phones for fun.

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Foster Carer Stories #4 Sylvia

January 19, 2019

In this episode we cross the Atlantic and speak to Sylvia, author, retired teacher and foster carer. She shares her story of choosing foster care later in life as well as her writing stories for children and her path to towards adoption. 

You can follow Sylvia on Twitter here and view her 'foster heros' books here

Foster Carer stories is a place where foster carers can share their experiences, good, bad and everything in between with no agenda or filter.

If you'd like to share your story then please get in touch through the Adoption & Fostering Podcast's facebook page here, or our twitter feed here.

Episode 54 - Autism and Fostered and Adopted Children

January 12, 2019

Before Christmas we had the opportunity to speak to Dr Helen Rodwell and Dr Katie Hunt about a book that they'd just released on Autism and specifically the challenges that presents to children that are fostered or adopted. (The book can be bought here). It was an interesting chat that clarified some stuff and we considered some of the more challenging issues that parents and carers may experience in caring for the children. We also discussed the nuances of autism, diagnosis and formulations. The clocks chimed and it was a good natured discussion recorded on the evening of the commons no confidence vote in December. There's a little internet trouble but it's very brief so don't fret.

As always, Scott and I engage in light banter as we top and tail the interview and we've been given a book to give away, actually its the second we were given (long story) so there's a very hard competition to win it.

As always thanks for listening and if you're feeling benevolent or bored please head over to iTunes and leave a little review here 

Adopter Stories - #8 Adrian

January 5, 2019

In this episode we travel to the West Coast of the US and speak to birth mom, parent and adoptive parent Adrian. She shares her family's remarkable story of multiple adoptions from different sides of the triangle. 

You can find out more of Adrian's story on her blog here. Also, on her Facebook page here.

If you'd like to share your story then please get in touch through the Adoption & Fostering Podcast's facebook page here, or our twitter feed here.